Overstimulation: Thrown into a State of Activity

A Week Gone Mad

How often is this you? Your week starts out looking manageable and then you get a phone call asking if you can be a part of cooking a dessert for an event. “Oh no problem” you say, “the week is looking pretty empty.” You double check your schedule and realize immunizations are actually this week, and you know that your baby is going to be cranky after, but you’ve already committed to having a teen that you mentor over for lunch that text you last minute struggling. Do you cancel on the girl that really needs to talk so you can just sit and cuddle with your little guy? What if she really needs to talk? Well I’ll fit it in. In between her coming over and the baby waking up, I’ll just whip of this dessert. WAIT!!! I don’t have any eggs.
<INSERT UNPLANNED TRIP TO THE GROCERY STORE HERE>
Going to the grocery store with an almost five month old is never a “quick trip”. By the time the time you’re ready to head out the door, you smell something and realized he already wrecked his diaper. No problem, I’ll just run and change him and we’ll be on our way. Of course this will be the one time I forget to make sure he stayed covered during the change, and a spray of pee will soak me, the wall, the change table and his cute little “grocery shopping outfit.” I guess we won’t avoid a load of laundry today.
Just like that your week fills right up with the unexpected along with the planned get togethers, meetings, events – great things that might even be a part of your church!

The Outcome

When my week turns like this it usally ends up with my sitting exhausted on the couch crying to my husband asking “how on earth did things turn like this?” and “how am I going to accomplish everything?”. Our world turns into chaos, our baby is overtired, and husband most likely frustrated (even if he’s good at hiding it) because mom over-committed.

Why do  we over-commit? Through watching my little boy deal with the conundrum of “overstimuation”, I have learned a thing or two about myself.

Overstimulation

In case you are unfamiliar with what that is, basically babies can go into “sensory overload” with too many loud noises, people holding them, flashy toys, etc. They get wound right up, sometimes can’t sleep, other times fall right asleep to escape.

Stimulation itself really is a great thing. A baby needs the right amount of stimulation to grow physically, emotionally and socially. My son finds people smiling at him very stimulating. If he sees a smile he will instantly start responding, but I have to have wisdom to know when we’ve done enough laughing and smiling. All of a sudden that smile is upside down and the tears begin to flow. Caleb gets overwhelmed and goes into a panic as if to say “get me out of here!!!”.

As people, there are so many things to stimulate us, entertain us and keep us busy. When I looked into stimulation, I laughed at the definition that said, to paraphrase “end points are triggered to throw the nerves into a state of activity”. HA! How many times have I been “triggered” and thrown into a “state of activity”. Perhaps I hear of something I’d like to be involved in, and instead of stepping back and looking at it objectively to see how it fits in the greater schedule, I respond emotionally, and I’m thrown onto the hamster wheel, running and running, going no where.

A Mother’s Priorities

My compulsive “be prepared for everything” mentality is being put to good use. I keep panicking that I don’t have the skill set at the moment to keep up with three or more children, and that I must get my act together. Thankfully, the Lord knew that, and just gave me one to start out with. Instead of putting unhealthy pressure on myself to be able to handle more, I am trying to glean wisdom from mom’s who do handle more and see what their keys to joyful living include.

The bible holds an example of an amazing woman. Instead of finding this intimidating, let’s look at it from a learning and growing standpoint – this outstanding woman mentoring us new moms in the way we should live. I want to look at how this woman prioritizes what is most important (click here to read Proverbs 31).

Ten Keys to the Wife of Noble Character

1. Her husband is number one to her (apart from the Lord). She invests in her husband. Verse 11 says “she will greatly enrich his life”.

2. She looks for deals. Throughout this portion it talks about her bringing her food from afar, making her own clothes, bedding and having no fear of winter because she has prepared clothes for her children. Her husband might be the provider, but she is a part of stewarding those funds.

3. She cooks for and feeds the people in her care, in most cases her children and husband.

4. She works hard at everything she does.

5. Her heart and soul go into serving and loving her family. She finds joy in the daily and can laugh at things to come.

6. She knows the value of sowing, reaping and investing. That might be in a business sense, but also in terms of people.

7. She extends a helping hand to the poor and needy.

8. Nothing gets by her, she watches over the affairs of her household. She is an observer of her husband, her kids and all things concerning them. She can make time to talk to a struggling child, care for a cold or recognize when her husband is dealing with a lot at work.

9. She doesn’t forget about herself. She knows that how she dresses will reflect on her family, and is ok with putting a little time into getting ready (verse 22 “she dresses in fine linen and purple gowns).

10. She fears the Lord, and he gives her strength and wisdom. There is nothing she cannot do when she is partnered with him.

The reward for keeping these priorities is great.

Her children stand and bless her.
      Her husband praises her:
“There are many virtuous and capable women in the world,
      but you surpass them all!”

Charm is deceptive, and beauty does not last;
      but a woman who fears the Lord will be greatly praised.
 Reward her for all she has done.
      Let her deeds publicly declare her praise.

So, I will practice keeping these priorities, and update soon on how it’s going. It seems daunting in some ways, but when broken down, I can at least hold commitments up to this list and see if they really fit in the overall plan. Perhaps this may lead to a few less over-commited weeks.

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2 thoughts on “Overstimulation: Thrown into a State of Activity

  1. Monica, I read this last week and I have thought of it all weekend! I’ve been thinking of the wife spoken of in Proverbs…here is what I think…this Proverb was a very real woman living in a very real family. If all Scripture is God-breathed-as I believe it is-this woman is described by the Lord…She is not a perfect woman with boundless patience, energy and creativity…She is made perfect in the sight of the ones who love her because of the measure of grace they give to her…her husband…her children. She is like the Bride of Christ…who is made perfect IN CHRIST…by the riches of grace poured out on her. When grace is poured out on us, by Christ and by others, we are changed from glory to glory…more able, more equipped to the work we are called to do.

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