This new stage of separation anxiety has brought a few changes to my life really quickly. The biggest one is always leaving the bathroom door open during the day if I have to go to the washroom. Ok, so it’s just Caleb and I at home, it shouldn’t be a big deal. But I have a hard time using public washroom when other people are there!
The moment I take a step in the house Caleb hears me. If I move one direction, he leaves whatever he is doing to scoot after me as though I’m leaving forever. If I leave the door open to the washroom he’ll get so excited about the event that is going to take place. When you think about it, the washroom is a pretty exciting place. There is a giant basin filled with toys to play with while soaking in nice warm water. There is a cool bowl that swirls water around and around when you push down a lever. Caleb will nearly hyper ventilate whenever we get to go into that tiny room.
Today as I was reading one view on toilet training, they emphasized the need to demonstrate for your child how to use the washroom and to let them watch you. “Well I guess Caleb’s getting some good pre-training”, I laughed to myself.
The truth is, in mentorship, whether with our kids as they grow up, or in other areas where we speak into people’s lives (my husband and I specifically work with senior youth), sometimes you need to be transparent enough to show what your life is really like. Show the good, the bad and the ugly. Bring to light the things in your life that you aren’t proud of, or the toughest stuff you’ve overcome.
Displaying our lives as an open book is so freeing. Both of the mentors I have had in my life chose to share with me the struggles they were going through. There was no sugar-coating life for me. I walked with them through some difficulties, just as they walked with me through mine.
Paul describes mentorship in 1 Corinthians 11:1
And you should imitate me, just as I imitate Christ.
If we are to imitate Christ, we need to know him. If someone is to imitate us, they need to know.
I’m not saying we need to go around telling people to imitate our lives. I’m scared to tell even the ones I mentor to imitate me. But here is the key: we let them see everything. Trying to cover up the areas in our lives that still need work doesn’t help anyone. Sharing with them what you’re doing to refine yourself in Christ helps them to have the courage refine themselves and face their issues.
Thankfully I don’t have to show anyone else but my own children how to use the washroom, but the analogy transfers. My life needs to be an open book in order to help others.
My prayer for myself is that I would have the courage to allow the Lord to use ALL areas of my life, not just the nice, tidy ones that I feel comfortable exposing.
Are you ready to leave your washroom door open?
*The picture is linked back to the original website out of courtesy for them allowing me to use their image. I am not promoting their method of toilet training.