I’ve had a lot of conversations lately that have gone something like this:
Person: “Is your baby walking yet?”
Me: “Not quite, he’s getting close though!”
Person: “Just wait until he’s walking! Then your life will really get crazy. You’ll wish he never learned how to walk.”
Since having Caleb I have been introduced to the worlds of parents who always think they are one harder and more challenging step in front of me.
I quickly realized these people will say that about every single stage:
“Just wait until he’s on the move”
“Just wait until he’s on solids”
“Just wait until he starts walking”
“Just wait until he can talk”
“Just wait until he starts school”
The “just waits” started to drive me crazy! Each stage that should have been exciting was met with well-intentioned parents who tried to put fear into me.
This is why I will never say a negative “just wait” statement.
No matter what you do, or how much you dread it, your baby is going to learn to walk, talk, run and jump. In fact they won’t even stay babies! Dreading the future won’t change a thing and it robs you of your joy in the process.
I feel it is much more helpful to say a statement like this to a mom whose baby is about to start something new, like crawling.
“Wow, this stage definitely holds some new challenges, but it sure is exciting to watch them find their independence.”
We’ve acknowledged the truth of the challenge, while recognizing the joy of the new action. We have also instilled a positive comment in this already over-thinking mom and filled her with a bit of confidence that she can handle each new phase that comes her way!
I don’t know why we do it. I’ve caught myself about to make a negative statement like that to a mom with a baby younger than Caleb. Usually its rooted in my own insecurity. My competitive nature starts to overtake me.
1 Peter 3:10 says
If you want to enjoy life and see many happy days, keep your tongue from speaking evil and your lips from telling lies.
Discouraging words are not of God, and not only rob others of enjoying life and having happy days, but rob you as well!
Life might seem to get a little busier, but it sure is a joy to watch my son grow and discover!
Just wait until your baby turns one…it’s so much fun!