“Just Wait”

I’ve had a lot of conversations lately that have gone something like this:

Person: “Is your baby walking yet?”

Me: “Not quite, he’s getting close though!”

Person: “Just wait until he’s walking! Then your life will really get crazy. You’ll wish he never learned how to walk.”

Since having Caleb I have been introduced to the worlds of parents who always think they are one harder and more challenging step in front of me.

I quickly realized these people will say that about every single stage:

“Just wait until he’s on the move”

“Just wait until he’s on solids”

“Just wait until he starts walking”

“Just wait until he can talk”

“Just wait until he starts school”

The “just waits” started to drive me crazy! Each stage that should have been exciting was met with well-intentioned parents who tried to put fear into me.

This is why I will never say a negative “just wait” statement.

No matter what you do, or how much you dread it, your baby is going to learn to walk, talk, run and jump. In fact they won’t even stay babies! Dreading the future won’t change a thing and it robs you of your joy in the process.

I feel it is much more helpful to say a statement like this to a mom whose baby is about to start something new, like crawling.

“Wow, this stage definitely holds some new challenges, but it sure is exciting to watch them find their independence.”

We’ve acknowledged the truth of the challenge, while recognizing the joy of the new action. We have also instilled a positive comment in this already over-thinking mom and filled her with a bit of confidence that she can handle each new phase that comes her way!

I don’t know why we do it. I’ve caught myself about to make a negative statement like that to a mom with a baby younger than Caleb. Usually its rooted in my own insecurity. My competitive nature starts to overtake me.

1 Peter 3:10 says

If you want to enjoy life and see many happy days, keep your tongue from speaking evil and your lips from telling lies.

Discouraging words are not of God, and not only rob others of enjoying life and having happy days, but rob you as well!

Life might seem to get a little busier, but it sure is a joy to watch my son grow and discover!

Just wait until your baby turns one…it’s so much fun!

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3 thoughts on ““Just Wait”

  1. Yes! That’s some wisdom right there. I think (because I’m not a mom) that this applies to every single aspect of life. People say that about graduating, about going to college, about getting out of college, about every stage of your career, about being single, about dating, and about marriage. Each day is both terrifying and overwhelmingly beautiful. It’s terrifying because it’s happening, right now, and we can’t stop it. But it’s beautiful, because it’s happening, right now, and nothing can be as visceral and stimulating than the moment you are exsisting in.

  2. Sometimes I think a lot of that is habit. We have a tendency to be a “woe is me” kind of society, and so everyone is always told “just wait.” Kids are a challenge. It’s widely known and stated that parenting is the hardest job we will ever have. So, like you, I try to be encouraging, because I hated everyone saying “just wait” to me as well. It’s hard not to be comparative and competitive. Especially when you want everyone to know how amazing your child is and how hard you’re working. I like that you acknowledge the difficulty, but make it encouraging. Thanks for sharing 🙂

  3. Oh I know the “just waits” do get me as well. It’s just one big adventure as well as a new chapter in life so I think that god makes each and every stage that our little ones go threw is the most amazing thing to watch as our little ones grow from just hanging out not moving to oh my goodness your everywhere and into everything 🙂 it’s the best thing in life to see how we can encouge our little ones to become brave, strong and loving and caring everyday 🙂

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