The Grass is Always Greener

Watching a little child can reveal a lot about our true human instincts. They are unguarded in what they do. For example, my son always wants what I am eating. We can have the absolute, exact same thing, and he refuses his and whines for mine. If someone else has a toy, he wants it. If Andrew comes home and hugs me, Caleb uses his chubby little arms to separates us, wanting our undivided attention.

That “the grass is greener on the other side of the fence” mentality is certainly not isolated to babies and little children. I fall into the trap of this on a regular basis, desiring what someone else has and then when I get it, it loses its glimmer. I think my most recent example of this in my own life was when we bought our Ipad. We made a decision to purchase it because we needed a second computer, but agreed that the Ipad was a cheaper option.

The truth is though I had definitely been jealous of all the big bloggers who do so much with their Ipads. I was sure that once I got one my blog was going to be infused with new life.

Needless to say, the same things that were in the way of my blog being a priority in my life were still there, even with the new Ipad.

The bible warns us about coveting.

“You must not covet your neighbor’s wife. You must not covet your neighbor’s house or land, male or female servant, ox or donkey, or anything else that belongs to your neighbor

Deuteronomy 5:21

For me this could say

“You must not covet your friends Ipad, expensive make up, new clothes, 7-seater SUV, or anything else that belongs to her.”

The lusts of our flesh are never satisfied. Our human desire for more just increases.

I was shocked to hear this week that since the explosion of Facebook and other social media sites, there has been a huge increase in the number of adulterous affairs. Usually it is because a married person reconnects with a ex-boyfriend/girlfriend or someone they had a crush on. Through reconnecting with them, and allowing themselves to think on what they don’t have, they leave their spouse.

The one story I heard broke my heart as a man in his sixties had his wife of nearly forty years leave him for a highschool sweetheart after reconnecting on Facebook.

Watching Caleb in such a straightforward way model desiring what we don’t have, my eyes have been reopened to my own covetous nature. I certainly do not want to be an example to Caleb of a woman who is discontent, always wanting more and never being satisfied.

What starts out with the little things plant seeds that lead to big things.

James 1:14-15 says

But each person is tempted when he is lured and enticed by his own desire. Then desire when it has conceived gives birth to sin, and sin when it is fully grown brings forth death.

Death can come in many forms, whether it be physical death, relational death, spiritual death or another sort. My heart breaks at the thought of my own undisciplined self causing death of relationship to come in my family. I pray that my family and I can avoid the trap for more and the constant want of more stuff, thrills or highs.

As we seek first the Kingdom of God, all the other things that the Lord knows we need will be added to us. And sometimes he even grants us the special desires of our heart!


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