While talking with a friend, we were discussing the challenges of having renters, and she said that sometimes people are ungrateful for the work you put in and assume that you should just do it. As a not-so-handy-wife, sometimes I think I subconsciously view myself as a renter, expecting immaculate household updates from my husband.
There have definitely been times when I’ve been ungrateful for all the work my husband does around the house. Just as he finishes screwing something back together, I am complaining about the dishwasher not cleaning well. My list of things that aren’t working can seem endless, and most of those tasks fall on him since I haven’t learned how to deal with them.
There are some bible verses that speak deep comfort and assurance to my soul. Then there are some other that don’t speak exactly that to me. As much as comfort and assurance are nice things to feel, it is often in the more challenging words that we grow.
Did you know that Proverbs speaks of multiple situations that would be better than to live with a quarrelsome wife? Here is a list of them. I hope they make you laugh too.
- Living alone in the corner of an attic (TWICE he uses this comparison)
- Listening to a constant dripping
- Living alone in a desert
- Listening to the constant drip of a rainy day.
According to the Cambridge Dictionary, a quarrelsome person repeatedly argues with someone.
Often the word quarrelsome is used alongside the words complaining, nagging or irritable.
One translation says “the nagging of a wife goes on and on like the drip, drip, drip of a rainy day.”
Before any of you women get too offended by these verses, don’t worry. There are lots of verses that speak to men. I’m just not talking about those, since these are the ones that have impacted me.
The frustration that comes from a wife that is never satisfies seems to be of an extreme kind. For someone to say they would rather live alone in a desert than with a nagging, quarrelsome, complaining, irritable wife in a nice home, means that this really upsets them! There are not many things that bother me enough to choose that sort of lifestyle over a nice home.
Even as I’m writing this I am getting triggered by things that are driving me crazy involving our move, and for some reason I want to take it out by arguing and complaining. In fact, I have done that in the last thirty minutes! Before I was battling that today, this was on my heart to write about, so God is obviously trying to teach me something through this.
Philippians 2:14-15 and says (speaking to men and women alike)
Do everything without complaining and arguing, so that no one can criticize you. Live clean, innocent lives as children of God, shining like bright lights in a world full of crooked and perverse people.
What a challenge! I know I can’t do this on my own. I can’t be the opposite of quarrelsome without the Lord’s love and grace shining through me.
Father, would you help me in this today.