Okay, I’m going to try word this post as nicely and lovingly as possible. Like I warned in Let Your Voice Be Heard, I felt like God was going to have me speak up to a few things that I think are going to be leading to the detriment of our society. And here is one that has been stirring in my heart for a while.
When I first signed up for Pinterest, I don’t think I fully understood what is was for (who does when they initially sign up for a new social media site anyway). I loved the home decor, and especially the DIY (do it yourself) projects that were suddenly grouped together for me, and I didn’t have to spend hours searching through blogs. It seemed pretty great.
But I have a concern when it comes to two things.
1) Some of the images that are being pinned are really scandalous, revealing and a flat out inappropriate.
2) I am seeing way too many boards from the married and unmarried alike of people they find attractive. I’ve seen many names for these boards, from “eye candy” to “crushes”.
Will you bear with me for a moment to understand why I am concerned about these two things, and why I believe you should be too?
First of all, I believe that bikini’s, for example, are not a good thing to be wearing in public. This is for many reasons, but mostly because it causes the men around us to struggle. Now, if you’re alone on a secluded island with just your husband…do what you want. But please, can we all agree to leave our lingerie in the bedroom and work together to fight this issue of lust that is sweeping our world away?
Now, I can already hear people saying that if it’s a struggle for you, don’t follow my boards. And let me say I agree. If you pin an revealing picture, I will unfollow you immediately, because my husband or son could be sitting right next to me.
Should we though, contribute to another person’s struggle? In Romans 14, Paul talks about how it is better for us to not eat meat or drink wine if it will cause another believer to stumble. He is so concerned for the stability of the other believer and that they not fall to their temptations, he says it’s better to not partake in the activity at all then to lead another believer astray.
Secondly, if you are purposefully drooling over bodies that you find attractive, you are lusting over them. I think sometimes as Christian women we can think that lust is just something that men deal with.
In the long list of fruits of the flesh, lust is right alongside sexual immorality and impurity. Philippians 4:8 says
And now, dear brothers and sisters, one final thing. Fix your thoughts on what is true, and honorable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable. Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise.
The last thing that I think is probably the biggest issue, is the problem with comparison. No woman (or man) wants to be compared with an unrealistic, air brushed model. You can’t live up to it. If my husband had some open infatuation with another woman, whether he knows her personally or not, I would be hurt beyond what words can describe.
Lust can be as powerful as a drug, and so can insecurity. Relationships today need more security, trust and wholehearted faithfulness, not less. We should go above and beyond the call of duty to show our spouse that they have our undivided love and adoration. If you are not married yet, I encourage you to practice this principle, and not develop habits that will be hard to reverse later on.
I was struck by this verse in Song of Solomon 2:15 the other night as we were reading.
Catch all the foxes, those little foxes, before they ruin the vineyard of love, for the grapevines are blossoming!
Hear me say this: More often than not it is the little things that ruin relationships. Catch the little foxes, the little habits, patterns and sinful actions because they destroy your love.
If you have regrets, don’t feel guilty or under the weight of any condemnation, just choose this day to be an example of holiness, purity and modesty to a confused generation.