Beauty Does Not Equal Relational Security

While standing at the grocery story the other day, my eyes caught a sad headline. The celebrity named “the most beautiful woman in the world” was having relationship problems again. They captured the heartbroken Jennifer Lopez grieving over her cheating boyfriend.

While I’m not caught up on celebrity gossip, and I try to not look at those magazines, my heart broke for Jennifer Lopez. Many girls would do just about anything to become the most beautiful woman according the worlds standards. Yet here is this gorgeous woman, left alone and hurt. Obviously this means that beauty does not offer relational security.

The thoughts that swirled through my head, and the message that gets sent out to the world is that if someone like Jennifer Lopez can’t keep a man, how is the average woman going to prevent hers from walking out?

In the moment of her pain, I’m sure she asks herself the same questions we do in crisis.
What if I were prettier?
What if I were smarter?
What if I was more talented?
Then would I stop getting hurt?

After thinking and praying on this, I have thought of many couples who have stood the test of time, and haven’t succumb to divorce and adultery. None of those situations ranked outward appearance anywhere near the top of important qualities.

I hope that allows you to exhale for a moment. We can rest easier when we know that the important things are areas that we can work on and submit to the Lord. Our physical self can change to an extent, but then no more. Our inner self can continually be made more into the likeness of God everyday, as we make it a priority.

Proverbs 31: 28-30 in a familiar verse, but let it sink into your heart.

Her children stand and bless her. Her husband praises her: “There are many virtuous and capable women in the world, but you surpass them all!” Charm is deceptive, and beauty does not last; but a woman who fears the Lord will be greatly praised.

The husband of a wife who works on her inner beauty, will praise her, and out of that his love for her will grow. As I hear older men speak of their beloved wives, you can tell they love them in a much deeper way than a younger couple can even comprehend.

Sadly the world has rated these as top things to have: beauty, fame, power and money. People attain these, and still often have nothing.

We can still have it all with Jesus; He has given me beauty for ashes, recognition in the courts of the King of Kings, power from on high, and a promise to supply all my needs. My cup overflows. Surely goodness and mercy will follow me all the days of my life, and I will dwell in the courts of my King forever.

Don’t keep this hope to yourself. Many women around us have relied on their outward beauty to bring them acceptance. Eventually it fails. When it does, be sure to point them to the one who wants to beautify them on the inside to attract the man who will love, praise and honour them for who they are as a virtuous woman.


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