I guess you could say that I am a dreamer. I dream when I am asleep. I dream when I am awake. Sometimes God speaks to me through my dreams, other times I wonder what could be speaking to me to concoct such a strange one!
A reoccurring pattern in my dreams for the past couples years is where I am doing something that I know I shouldn’t. It is never something terrible, in fact at first it might look like something good. For example, I might be about to marry this great Christian guy, but I know that he is not the one that God has for me. Another one is that I am about to go to a Bible school after graduating high school, it appears to be the “right” decision, but in my heart I know I haven’t followed the Lord to the place he is calling.
These dreams always stem back to a fear of not being in God’s will. I have these flashes to what might have been – and they are not good.
As the Lord has brought me through many important decisions, I am so thankful for three steps He has shown me for making sure I’m in his will. These principles continue to guide us daily.
1. Knowing His Word. Reading his word regularly and knowing the Word, is so important. All decisions need to be tested against scripture. If what you are feeling goes against God’s word, than it is not in God’s will. How can you know God’s stance on the issue unless you know the scriptures?
Hebrews 4:12 says
For the word of God is alive and powerful. It is sharper than the sharpest two-edged sword, cutting between soul and spirit, between joint and marrow. It exposes our innermost thoughts and desires.
The word of God can help us discern between what is our fleshly desires and what is something he is placing on our heart. His word is also a lamp to our feet and a light to our path (Psalm 119:105).
2. Pray For Peace. As I pray about a decision, I ask that the Lord would give me peace regarding the direction he is asking me to take. It is incredible the times that God spoken to me this way. This past March my husband told me he felt that we needed to leave our 11-month old son for four days and go to a conference in California. In the natural I was completely freaked out! I had never been away from my son that long, nor been that far a distance away from him. I was still breastfeeding, and has many concerns about the time for which we would be away.
As we prayed about it, and I objectively laid it before the Lord, he gave me a supernatural peace that went beyond what I could understand. I knew that God was leading us to this conference and that he would take care of my boy.
Philippians 4:6-7 encourages us that the Lord will lead us with his peace when he offer our concerns to him.
Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done. Then you will experience God’s peace, which exceeds anything we can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus.
3. Seek Godly Counsel. Whether this be from a mentor, spouse or godly friend, receiving wise counsel is very important, and Proverbs is full of reasons why. For me the person I receive counsel from has changed over the years. Now, I do receive a lot of counsel from my husband, knowing that he is praying for me and seeking the Lord. Before I started dating my husband, I was praying for confirmation, since marriage is one of the most important decisions you will ever make.
People who despise advice are asking for trouble; those who respect a command will succeed.
I needed to receive godly counsel so that my heart and my own desires didn’t completely cloud out what God was saying. Being able to take some straight talk from a mentor was important. Perhaps you’ve heard the saying “the right thing at the wrong time is still the wrong thing.” Even though I felt in my heart that this was who God was leading me towards, I needed to get some wise counsel as to the timing of the relationship, and how to go about it.
These are some safe guards for me, and I’m thankful that i don’t have to live in fear of not being in the centre of God’s will. He desires to make the path clear to me.