I’ve never drank before (well…except for that one time at a Lutheran church, that was surprisingly gross communion juice!) but if I go to bed angry I wake up with a hangover. I will be uncomfortable all night. The sheets will wrap around me in a suffocating way. My pajamas will be too tight, too loose, too scratchy. I’ll wake up randomly with annoying dreams, and hear my husband sleeping oblivious to my frustration and not be able to fall asleep again.
The next day will consist of swollen eyes, an achy body and a headache that no cup of coffee can cure. All you’ll want to do is cry your self into hours of sleep. It’s the worst. And your husband? No symptoms. Just a half-hearted joke to test whether your still mad. And you don’t want to still be mad and wreck another day…but you just feel so awful.
I guess that’s why we’re reminded in Ephesians 4:26-27 to not let our anger control us, and to not let the day finish out while you’re still angry.
And “don’t sin by letting anger control you.” Don’t let the sun go down while you are still angry, for anger gives a foothold to the devil.
Trying to claim back a day that starts off with this anger hangover can be painful and exhausting. The enemy seems to have the head start on you unless you take back the joy that he has stolen.
The best remedy for this self-inflicted illness is to return to the Lord.
Return, O Israel, to the Lord your God, for your sins have brought you down. Bring your confessions, and return to the Lord. Say to him, “Forgive all our sins and graciously receive us, so that we may offer you our praises.”
This attitude towards the Lord will eventually soften your heart, and you can have the same attitude towards your spouse. We don’t want to live separated by our sin, nor do we want to live in the despondency that it can bring. Forgiveness from the Lord, and our spouse can renew unity and joy.
Hopefully I learn my lesson and make the effort to not succumb to an anger filled night. But if I do fail to work it out, I’ll skip the Tylenol, and try to return quickly to the Lord, and to my husband.