After taking a marriage course, I knew I needed to get serious about becoming my husband’s number one prayer warrior. My mentor and dear friend led me to the book “The Power of a Praying Wife.” I had received it as an engagement gift, but hadn’t really picked it up.
I knew the power of prayer and had seen the Lord do mighty things in my life, but I felt overwhelmed with where to start when I thought of the vast list of things I needed to lift before God.
Stormie Omartian, author of the Power of a Praying Wife, has prayers at the end of each chapter to help you get started, along with verses to pray over your husband.
Eager to get started, I opened the book one morning, ready to cry out to the Lord on behalf of Andrew. To my surprise, the first prayer in the book is for the wife. Not for the husband.
The first paragraph started like this:
Lord, help me to be a good wife. I fully realize that I don’t have what it takes to be one without Your help. Take my selfishness, impatience, and irritability and turn them into kindness, long-suffering, and the willingness to bear all things. Take my old emotional habits, mindsets, automatic reactions, rude assumptions, and self-protective stance, and make me patient, kind, good, faithful, gentle, and self-controlled. Take the hardness of my heart and break down the walls with Your battering ram of revelation. Give me a new heart and work in me Your love, peace, and joy (Galatians 5:22-23). I am not able to rise above who I am at this moment. Only You can transform me.
I was not prepared for the introspective look that this prayer was going to take. It took me a long time to get through the whole prayer, as tears flowed down.
Even though I have read through this prayer hundreds of times now, I can’t get through it without crying. There are two things that break me each time.
1. I see how God is working in me and changing me.
2. I realize how powerless I am to be a good wife without the Lord.
The end of the prayer holds another tear jerker in the last line.
Make me a new person, Lord. Give me a fresh perspective, a positive outlook, and a renewed relationship with the man You’ve given me to. Help me see him with new eyes, new appreciation, new love, new compassion, and new acceptance. Give my husband a new wife, and let it be me.
Courage is required to continue praying a prayer like this. There are some weeks when I don’t know if I have the energy it takes to give my selfishness and irritability to the Lord. But God is so gracious, and as you keep submitting yourself to him, he will continue to pour out all you need in the midst of your never ending mistakes.
Don’t be deceived: you might begin this prayer journey to see your husband “changed”, but you are the one who will get rocked!
And it’s a pretty rewarding place to be.