After sharing this video to my Facebook page yesterday, I have been reading a little more about the “man without limbs”, Nick Vujicic. I have to say I am nothing short of awestruck, inspired and challenged by his story.
I visited his website and the first thing that I saw was “tell them about Jesus”. After spending a total of thirty seconds on his non-profit’s site, you can see they are determined and focused on leading people to Christ.
While I am incredibly motivated and encouraged by him, I have to say I’ve been thinking a lot about his wife. I can’t see to find very much about her, but what little I do know really started me thinking about a few things.
Kanae Vujicic is an example of what it means to truly believe in your spouse and look at them with eyes of what they CAN do instead of what they can’t. Her husband has certainly proved to the world that he is capable of overcoming great obstacles, but there will certainly be struggles for them.
They recently announced that they are expecting their first child, and my first selfish thought was how she would have a big job without much physical help from him. There are obvious limitations.
However, they speak time and again that they want to live a life without limits, which really means not focusing on the limitation. My mind seems to need a little more of the freedom they have.
Thinking about her devotion to Nick, I couldn’t help meditating on 1 Corinthians 13, the love chapter. Love is not selfish. Love does not insist on it’s own way. I saw some pictures of these two on their honeymoon and she was pushing wheelchair on the beach in Hawaii. They looked incredibly happy. Where some people could see her feeling burdened, Kanae was smiling with delight.
I took three specific things away from their relationship to apply to my own marriage.
- Don’t look at what your spouse can’t do, marvel at all they have done and will do. Be their greatest cheerleader.
- Remind yourself daily that marriage isn’t selfish, you will be the biggest blessing when you love through serving, not just looking out for yourself.
- Make faith based decisions, not fear based. Don’t look at the limitation and run, seek God for wisdom and strength to jump over it. (Nick demonstrated this best when he tackled the stairs in the clip I linked to above.)
Love will not give up on your spouse, love will never lose faith in the person they can be, love will never stop hoping and love chooses to endure through whatever hardship is thrown your way.
That’s easy to say, but harder to live out. Let’s make this verse a prayer for our marriages and for ourselves, that we would possess these qualities of faith, hope, love and endurance.