Walking a road of forgiveness can be like walking through a valley. You climb the top of one hill, only to discover there is another deep incline to conquer.
One day you think you have released someone, and the next day you seem to be dealing with more anger and bitterness than in the first place.
Forgiving someone and asking God to forgive you for judging them, is one of the single most important lessons that I have learned in my adult life so far. I used to think forgiveness was just a nice thing we are supposed to do. I had no idea how key it would be to my personal freedom.
And at the same time, receiving forgiveness for my judgement of others is key to breaking the cycle of a critical spirit. Not only that, but the bible says that in the same way we judge others, we too will be judged.
Yikes. I do not want to live under that kind of judgement!
But what do you do when you can’t seem to escape the sins of someone else? When you try to forgive, but you can’t seem to forget the long list of offences they leave at your feet?
This verse in Psalm 25 seemed to leap off the page at me. The cry of the writer’s heart was not to be remembered for the way he was, but to be seen with the eyes of God’s unfailing love.
This has become a prayer for me in terms of my spouse, family member, friend or anyone I need eyes of forgiveness for.
Lord, let me not see them in their sin, give me eyes to see them in the light of your unfailing love. Show me your mercy toward them.
This prayer may be repeated many times until you start to see your own heart change. We all want unfailing love extended to us, but the gift of unfailing love is the hardest to give. Let the Lord change your heart.