Everyday in my kids life holds newness. For my son, today’s new things was jumping off every possible chair, couch or basket onto the floor yelling “I’m superman!”. For my daughter it was shaking a rattle hard enough for it to actually make noise. Each time they experience something new they are literally dwelling in a pool of delight. Every sense is stimulated. A whole new part of the world has opened up to them. Sweetness is tasted, a bass sound is heard, sparkle has been seen.
As an adult is it so easy to get stuck in the rut of routine.
I am a lover of routine and find a lot of comfort in the predictable. Marriage experts Drs. Greg & Erin Smalley talk about how trying something new with your spouse stimulates the part of your brain that creates the feelings you experience at the beginning of a relationship.
You don’t have to feel guilty admitting you aren’t overwhelmed with tingly feelings for your spouse. psychologists say that on average those “can’t eat, can’t sleep, can’t think about anything else” feelings last a maximum of two to three years from when you start dating. Some people’s feelings are already fading by the time they walk down the aisle.
Don’t find that discouraging, this just clears your head enough to learn what true love really is.
I keep coming back to my kids and the joy they experience learning and growing. My son is literally speechless sometimes when he discovers something that blows his mind. On the flip side he can be giving dramatic shouts of joy when he gets to try something he knows he’s going to like. God seems to be about new things as well. In fact as he models love relationship with us he is telling us over and over that he is doing to do a new thing in our hearts, in our minds and in our life. As he takes us to new places and new heights with him, we become enamoured with who he is.
But—“When God our Savior revealed his kindness and love, he saved us, not because of the righteous things we had done, but because of his mercy. He washed away our sins, giving us a new birth and new life through the Holy Spirit.
If any of your relationships feel stuck in a rut, try something new. Here are some practical ideas:
As a family – Break out of the typical family movie night and build a fort, do a craft or go exploring. With our kids we’ve been trying to hit up every park in our city over the summer. In your marriage – To try something new and maximize our time together, my husband has been teaching me how to mud and tape walls as we renovate our house. We have also been trying to get awesome at putting on “at-home-date-nights”. There are tons of ideas online and I wrote a post a while ago that you can check out. (At Home Dates)
With the Lord – Sometimes I have got stuck in what devotions need to look like. Try to be open to the season God might have you in. There are many ways to grow through wise counsel, worship, meditating, Scripture, art and movement, just to name a few. I am not an artist in anyway but there was a season where God spoke deeply to me through painting at a lake, something I would not normally try!