Does this word bring up any feelings in your heart?
It used to make me cringe as I related it more with words like: constricting, limiting and suffocating.
In school, I did not have much money, but a budget was not high on my list of priorities. In fact, my priorities were so mixed up that I would buy make up and clothes before food (you can survive a long time on stuff you’ve “borrowed” from your mom’s pantry)!
After we found out I was pregnant with our firstborn, we knew that I wouldn’t be returning to work. It was important to both of us that I be at home for our kids during their pre-school years.
This inevitably meant learning to live on one income. We were going to have to change our lifestyle, and actually start taking some of our debt seriously.
My husband stumbled across Dave Ramsey’s Financial Peace University. He became very excited about ways to quickly pay off our debt and work our way up to financial stability.
I was hesitant. It felt like there were a lot of rules and regulations. This was my money too, right? No one could completely control my spending.
God was giving me an opportunity to get some practice budgeting with a little more margin. When I didn’t take the chance, I ended up being thrown straight in.
We moved cities, switched careers and got pregnant with baby #2.
A budget was MUST.
This was when I learned a hard, but important lesson.
I needed to show my husband that he could trust me financially.
It took a bit of work but I learned, and have been learning, more about meal planning and shopping wisely. It is the furthest thing from restricting, I feel so much more organized during the week and we’re able to bless others with meals because I’m actually prepared.
I desire to demonstrate my love and respect for Andrew through how well I can manage the money that I’m responsible for spending. When I started looking at it that way it sure helped motivate me to do it well!
When I want to be lazy with meal planning or spending, I think on this verse to try to motivate myself back to good spending habits.
Who can find a virtuous and capable wife? She is more precious than rubies.
Her husband can trust her, and she will greatly enrich his life.
She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life.
Key points for me are:
- He can trust her.
- She enriches his life.
- She brings him good.
It would be stressful to have a wife that wastes your money and drains your finances. Nothing would make a man feel like more of a failure at providing.
Conflict over money consistently falls into the top three reasons marriages today fail. Seeking to honour your spouse through finances gives your home an extra dose of peace.
It’s well worth the effort to meal plan and shop wisely!