Just tell me what I want to hear.

“I am so tired today, I don’t think I should go to my exercise class. I mean, I’m breastfeeding, chasing kids, working, I’m tired. Don’t you think I should stay home?”

This is a loaded question that I’ve asked my husband before. Not always about exercise, sometimes about getting out for a walk, waking up to read my bible, or something else I want out of.

Another conversation can go like this:

“I’m so discouraged with the fact that I can’t fit into my jeans yet. Can you believe it’s taking so long to get down to my pre-baby weight?”

When I ask these kind of questions, the truth is I am often looking for a “You work so hard. You deserve a break.” or “You look great, don’t worry about fitting into those old jeans.”

And while I’m fishing for compliments or a way out of tasks I need to do, my husband is of the unique breed of men that will actually call me to a higher standard.

His responses can aggravate me as he tells me things like “if you keep working hard you’ll get the results you want.” or “You will feel much better if you don’t give up and follow through on your commitment to this class.”

It can make me so mad!

However, it doesn’t take very long for me to stand back and see that God brought Andrew into my life partially to keep me going on the right track and to be the physical voice echoing the words of my heavenly Father saying “Don’t give up! You will reap a harvest at the right time if you don’t give up.”

Sometimes we really are just looking for someone to tell us what we want to hear.

We don’t want to be pushed beyond our comfort zone or made to try a little harder.

I want someone to tell me that giving 80% was ok, and not question why I held back and didn’t give my all.

Character flaws in our life that should be called out in love by a friend, are often overlooked because of fear to offend.

The bible encourages us to be brave in our relationships and to call each other up to growth and excellence.

As iron sharpens iron, so a friend sharpens a friend. Proverbs 27:17

Even in my laziness at times, I am so thankful for a husband, and many friends, who don’t just tell me what I want to hear, but challenge me to fight the good fight of faith with continued endurance.

Let us think of ways to motivate one another to acts of love and good works. Hebrews 10:24

A and M

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