I’ve always had friends in my life that I love immensely, but I leave being with them feeling a little insecure.
Comparison always creeps in and I wish my hair was more workable, my clothes more put together and my heart a little more loving.
Recently I realized that I wanted to move from being insecure around those friends to being inspired by them.
The difference in insecurity is that we lose confidence in who we are, or we start going down a path of self-hatred.
I did a little reading on the definitions of inspire and insecure.
inspire: fill (someone) with the urge or ability to do or feel something, especially to do something creative.
insecure: (of a person) not confident or assured; uncertain and anxious.
(of a thing) not firm or set; unsafe.
Being insecure around someone cripples our chance to grow from that relationship.
Opening our hearts to become inspired by that same person is a much more beautiful, beneficial process.
When we are insecure, we end up acting out to prove our worth, or withdrawing to become invisible.
Sometimes I have been on the other side of the insecurity trap. My life, choices or stance has made others feel inadequate.
I know I have pulled back from sharing who I am with certain people because I know it can set them against me or against themselves.
I pray that my life fills others with the urge or ability to do something they didn’t think they could. That through being myself, they are released to be all that God has created them to be.
God is teaching me a lot about balance in all areas of my life, and specifically keeps speaking the phrase “beautiful balance.”
In this balance, I am learning that I can be who I am and free others to live inspired lives as I walk in the combination of truth and unfailing love.
Believe it or not we can speak truth while operating in love.
As a black and white person, I struggle with the love side when speaking truth. But Psalm 89:13-14 pulls out this concept beautifully.
Powerful is your arm! Strong is your hand! Your right hand is lifted high in glorious strength. Righteousness and justice are the foundation of your throne. Unfailing love and truth walk before you as attendants.
Imagine unfailing love and truth walking before us, paving the way for who we are and the message that we carry.
May your life set people free. May you inspire greatness in those around you, and never cause them to feel unsure or afraid. May your courage be the catalyst for someone else’s dream becoming a reality.
May you be, confidently, who you were created to be.