What do having cable TV and dating have in common?
Well for some maybe nothing. But here is what I am extremely concerned about:
I hear so many married couples with kids tell me that they can’t afford, or find the time to go on dates.
In fact, we have been looked at by some with a “must be nice” attitude when they see us prioritize date nights, thinking we must roll in cash, or have nothing better to do with our money.
This mentality is frightening.
Because statistics have shown over and over how important it is for your relationship to have it stay as a top priority, especially during your season of having babies and toddlers.
It is downright scary to see how many couples break up after they get through the intensity of raising kids and then realize they “have nothing in common anymore”.
This happens not because they are incompatible, but because they have become disconnected. The kids, jobs, sports and frankly everything else seemed to come before their marriage.
If you see the importance of going on a date and connecting regularly with your spouse, the majority of us can cut something in our budget to make room for it.
Like cable TV. Honestly, there have been times where watching TV is easier than getting up and doing something together, or diving into a conversation.
If TV isn’t your issue, maybe it’s something else.
Like too many vehicle payments, a shopping addiction, or maybe an out of control grocery budget.
Generally speaking, there would be some place that you could take from to make room for a date, if it’s a priority.
When we started to relook at our budget to make room for a babysitter, there were seasons where a date itself consisted of spending $3 on two coffees from Tim Horton’s while we were out for a walk. The majority of our “date money” went to hire the babysitter for two hours.
This spoke volumes to each other about the priority of our relationship, and it also spoke to our kids about how mommy and daddy value each other.
It has made such an impact on our oldest, that if Andrew and I aren’t getting along well, he tells us that we need to go out together on our own! Even a four year old can see how much it helps!
Don’t be trapped in a victim mentality that says you can’t have what you need. Your marriage does not have to be the martyr for everything else.
There are always options, and if you know Jesus, he is a creative and innovative Saviour, who delights in making a way where there appears to be no way!
You can be victorious in your marriage. Find time and money to be together!